There is always a strong relation between magic and courting ladies. Many are convinced that Magic can be used as a social weapon.

As much as I too agree how magic can open up a new found confidence in social situations, the further i dwell on with the craft, the more i realise how untrue it seems.

Do you think that magic helps you out socially? Or did you unconsciously lose ur humble self on the way?

Hmm... did you happen to come across a certain magic shop?

To a certain extent, magic does help in your social skills. I have seen shy people becoming more confident after learning magic. It is not so much about the magic in and of itself, but rather the communication skills they need to pick up in PERFORMING.

Magic can be a door opener, no doubt but to say it can get you the gals is really stretching it a bit too much. If you have sub-zero personality, no amount of magic is going to get you anywhere.

And I challenge ANYBODY who tells me you can hook up the gals with magic alone.

I would like to see that as well. Who knows. Might be an eye opener.

More than likely, whoever is attempting to win affection from the opposite sex using magic alone is going to come off as a huge turd.

I merely thought it'd garner more hits with this title. :P And yes i've chanced upon that shop and that practice ages ago too.

I used to see magic as a social weapon. Not particularly with the ladies but in any social situation. And many would agree as well. Having said that I too think that linking it to pick up might be stretching it a little too much. In the end even with the best magic effects up your sleeves, no one'd take interest in any of your offer without good communication skills.

I strongly agree with Matt that too many times,

And in fact, I don't even quite like it when people know me as a magician because one already have an impression about such "motives".

I recently met up with a friend or better known as the Korean magician who came recently. He is very likable and somehow everyone (or so i feel) enjoys his entertainment.

Watching his workings and talking to him reminds me about how important it was to be a better person before becoming a better magician. Thus the post. And I wonder if new magicians actually see this point of view.

I think I know who you are referring to. Yup, I like the way he perform too. Very cute, very entertaining and most importantly very genuine.

Maybe saying one needs to be a better person before becoming a better magician is a bit too much. Not that I don't agree, just that it is not necessarily true.

I am very sure there are people who can switch on and off when they are doing performance. Once in performance mode, they could morph into a star with the personality and charisma of a cult-leader. But off it, they may be so boring that they can't even get their dog to play with them.

Of course, what I wrote generally applies to professionals.

For amateurs like most of us, our performing persona cannot deviate too much from our usual self.

i can guarantee you this, magic alone may at the beginning help you to socialise or get gals, but in the long run or maybe after awhile, people would careless about you if the only way you socialise with them is magic, people want to be friend with a guy who has good character, not just having some skills. I personally feel it is easy to fell into a trap of being arrogance as one starts to know more about magic. I sort of learn what i wrote above in a hard way.

Well , to me it really helps . In the beginning , I was at first shy but upon learning magic and showing infront of relatives , I began feeling a little more confident of myself than before but still had a long way to go . When peforming magic , I would try to do those which suit my personality so that I could fully peform the whole essential of it ^_^

-Xiao Feng

I would like to take up the challenge..haha..

I believe that if its just purely hooking up girls, then using magic is possible. However, if its maintaining the relationship, then.... never in a lifetime i guess. :D

Not a fair challenge leh... you so good-looking, no need magic also gals flock to you.

Yeah! For me, its not everyday I come by such a performer. Genuine is the perfect word to use. He's sincere about using his talents as an entertainment and as a person he has been extremely kind with me.

I honestly think that both amateurs and professionals alike, there is a great need for us to aim for a pleasing performing style. I don't mean that everyone has to be bright and cheerful, but I feel that many times magician's who don't share my point of view spoils the impression of how magic is in the mind of the laymen. "Magicians are show off who tries to trick and fool you" but not so much of "Magicians brings laughs and they are a great company!"

Its good to hear that you agree with me at such a young age! :D

Xiao Feng, You remind me of my Korean friend. Apparently he was encouraged to learn magic by his sister to step out of his comfort zone and mix around with people. I think magic can really built up one's confidence and go a long way in life.

Win alrdy la, Sean. One day you show me your pick up skills okay.

LoyaLover- Good things are never meant to be share and shown. HAHA :P

Haha, interesting.

=P, good things are never meant to be shared. But maybe we can go research something about it?