ok....i hv a kid who is berry shy(yes, even more shy than me), ard 7yrs old, always stand in one corner, biting his water bottle or finger.....refusing to join other children for lessons.....i did magic coloring book for him, thus managed to coax him to color some pictures, but he still refuse to join other kids.....headache..... saw joker tube, peanut & butter jelly illusion(both can be found on penguin)....so who has them? i'm afraid these tricks are too long or too difficult for him to follow...anyone has experiences & tips with these 2 props to share with? & i'm tinking of buying joker tube, peanut & butter jelly illusion..if u r willing to let go, just pm me d price.


yujie

Maybe try spongeballs or small silk hankies yujie? The bright colours might help attract his attention.

glad u finally found the book at JP haha!

i have a suggestion... do TT vanishes (silks are most visual)! what's this organisation you're working with?

i agree wif morphine.

i'm currently doing volunteer work for kids of lower income and intellectually disabled kids betw 5yrs n above so i do encounter situation which u're encounting now b4.

sponge balls, silks n D-lite R the best to get their attention base on my own experience. cuz of the colours n a "toy" feeling to them.

normally i'll start by doin some simple d-lite to get their attention (as in doing in front of the reserve kid BUT acting as thou i'm juz playin by myself n not showing for him). i'll always take note whether is his attention on me n the d-lites. if yes, i'll see if he'll come up to me but most of the time, unless u're lucky, they normally won't. so after some time, go up to the kid, smile n cont'd to show him d-lites for a short while, at the same time test to see if he's willing for u to interact wif him. if the kid allow, which most of the time they will, use sponge balls to play n do some simple sponge ball routines let him get some hands on.

by now, if there's other kids ard, they'll b crowding ard u as well. take this opportunity to involve routines tat u need 2 audiences (in this case the quiet kid n another kid). but b careful which kid u choose to pair up. best is choose some1 not too "active" yet not too "quiet" (hope u get wat i mean).

this is the "tactic" i always use.
hope the infor is of use to u :)

ok...tis kid is super super super super shy.....i tried to hold his hands, but he always withdraw back immediately & goes back to his old habits....sucking his water bottle & fingers...but he loves to play hide-n-seek.....hahaha..... i will give a shot at the sponge balls......thxs for all d advice guys, they r berry helpful.....


yujie

hehe...try pulling a coin from their ear :g:

wahaha. i think let him grow up first.
or maybe. he got smoe pyschological problems
no offence wor. but then where got 7 years old THAT shy.
i think see a doctor. or consult someone. lol..

anyway u do simple tricks like making things vanish and appearing

take his bottle and make it static to ur palm

yes!!! tis kid is tat shy even at 7 yrs old....i'm 23 yrs old, but i'm also berry shy... ^_^ ...so i can understand tis kid lah........therefore he's now my favourite kid liao. ^_^

A bit off topic but I just fill in something and hope it generate idea to help out that kids you mention.

Just my opinion...

Y not just stick to playing hide and seek for the time being since he like doing so hehe :D Make him your best friend first... work quite afew time for me(the best friend tactic)... but once others children offer to join the 2 of you in the fun, you must make sure you ask for his permission, make him feel that he the leader in this game and not just allow them to... he might have a little bit of fear... if thing start to turn better and few kid join in without any problem... it time to leave them alone for good... and hmm... soon u must change to other games or stuff and act like a foolish joker to let them make fun of... Laughter, joy and fun together in a group make him feel more comfy and increase his confidence with them.

Another approach I took for a different type of tough kid I met:

I once met a small kid who keep repeating the same 3 sentence and when I repeat it after him he laugh happily, it last around 15 min plus plus before I got him to play in a group :wacko: Other kids got bored of him at first... but later on they joined in and laugh crazily and they start playing balloon together... what I did is I play with the others and make myself the center of attraction to play with, then I move on over to the 3sentenceonlykids... the other kid have no others choice but to play with me the 3 sentence... it kinda bored but u just have to repeat and laugh foolishly like a crown... fall down when laughing... lightly slam a kids down on the floor when laughing... yah stuff like that.. then I started taking balloon and throw at their head and laugh... soon they start the balloon to head magic :ph43r: yeah but must oversee stuff and not let violent take place....

Hope my little experience helps... only council and took care of kids for awhile so can't say that best friend tactic works extreme well for kids...
Just hope it add in to some rough idea of what going on in kids brain and the emotion they have..

just my 2 cards...

thxs thxs......my frends & i did play hide-n-seek with him....hahaha....after 3 weeks....he's better now, compared to the first week....but just wouldn't join d class....but i tink there's hope....will keep u all updated.....thxs everyone for d feedback.......btw anyone has d 2 props i'm looking for?


yujie